effron wrote: Somebody's been painted into a corner. If it was me, I would leave my gear home and make it clear to the friend this is a no no. She's just trying to get some freebies, and you shouldn't allow yourself to get used like this....My .02 cents only.....
garyrhook wrote: For me
My immediate thought was to clarify to the pro that "I didn't ask, they asked me, and you need to know taht I was immediately uncomfortable with it." But since you tried that, and the "pro" acted rather unprofessionally (I mean, if it's that much of a problem, put a restriction in your contract, right?) you've done all you can do.
Assuming you were invited to the wedding....
Now you tell your friend, "thank you but no. I am oh-so-flattered, but it's not appropriate from a professional level, and honestly, I just want to celebrate your day with you. If I'm working, I can't do that. I love you too much to miss out on such an important event!"
Or some such, right? And don't bring up the mixed-up messages in this little three-way. The pro might have chosen to be conciliatory to his client, and thought by contacting you he could get you to back out without looking like the bad guy.
You did what you could with the schmo-pro, but I wouldn't show up with a camera now. Uh-uh, no.
Again, for me.
Please let us know how events transpire.
Linda Duncan wrote:
garyrhook wrote: For me
My immediate thought was to clarify to the pro that "I didn't ask, they asked me, and you need to know taht I was immediately uncomfortable with it." But since you tried that, and the "pro" acted rather unprofessionally (I mean, if it's that much of a problem, put a restriction in your contract, right?) you've done all you can do.
Assuming you were invited to the wedding....
Now you tell your friend, "thank you but no. I am oh-so-flattered, but it's not appropriate from a professional level, and honestly, I just want to celebrate your day with you. If I'm working, I can't do that. I love you too much to miss out on such an important event!"
Or some such, right? And don't bring up the mixed-up messages in this little three-way. The pro might have chosen to be conciliatory to his client, and thought by contacting you he could get you to back out without looking like the bad guy.
You did what you could with the schmo-pro, but I wouldn't show up with a camera now. Uh-uh, no.
Again, for me.
Please let us know how events transpire.
Thank you all for your messages. Very helpful. Now just to clarify Gary, you are suggesting NOT to speak about the discussion the "Pro", let's just call him "Hired Photographer" and I had. Correct?
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